Help! My Dog Hates One Family Member!

Aggression By Gem Sheps 6 min read November 14, 2021 47 Comments

Dog Doesn't Like One Person

It’s every owner’s worst fear: You’ve brought home the pup of your dreams, and he gets along with everyone in the family — except for one person. 

Aggression toward any family member, whether severe or mild, should be addressed right away to prevent the situation from escalating. What starts as a small growl could turn into a much more complex problem over time.  

Why Does My Dog Hate One Family Member?

First things first — it’s important to distinguish dog behavior from human characteristics in situations like this. 

Dogs probably can’t feel emotions as complex as hate. Reactions like growling, snarling, lunging, nipping and biting typically stem from either fear, pain, or learned aggression (such as dog fighting, past abuse, or even just an unwelcome interaction from puppyhood).

There are a lot of reasons that a dog may react aggressively toward a family member. If you’ve had your dog since puppyhood it may be easier to figure out the root cause, but for many adopted dogs the cause may never be discovered. 

More often than not, the reason a dog reacts aggressively toward a family member is due to poor socialization or fear from a past experience

What Can You Do About Dog Aggression Toward Family Members?

Finding the trigger that causes your dog’s aggression is the first step for resolving the problem. 

When your dog acts aggressively toward a family member, try to take inventory of the situation:

  • Does the dog appear to be guarding a resource like food, water, toys or bones? What about another animal or a child?
  • Does the family member use an assistive device like a cane, wheelchair, walker, or some other type of medical equipment? These items are foreign to dogs and could be scaring your pooch.
  • If the family member is a child, is she interacting with the dog appropriately? Children have a tendency to grab, pull, squeeze and touch their pet in ways that can make dogs uncomfortable.
  • Has your household undergone any major changes recently, such as moving, welcoming an infant, or bringing in a new pet?

Having a trainer evaluate the aggressive behavior is also a good idea. More often than not, dogs with aggression issues require professional assistance. 

In the meantime, preventing aggressive behavior like nipping and biting is paramount. Muzzles can be helpful for doing so – they may even be mandatory for some dogs. In some cases, such as those involving small children, complete separation may be necessary.

Is It OK If a Dog Is Protective of One Family Member?

“Protective” behavior is another human attribute that we project onto our dogs. Unless trained specifically for protection work, the “protective” behavior your dog displays is most likely resource guarding.

Dogs see their owners and family members as a valuable resource that provides food, water and affection. If you notice that your dog growls or snarls at other family members only when they are interacting with you, he might be guarding you.

Guarding behavior may seem harmless and even endearing at times—after all, how sweet is it that Fido loves you so much that he doesn’t want to share you with anyone? However, a growling dog is a dog that’s giving a warning; his behavior could escalate and a bite may soon follow.

This is especially important to acknowledge in any home with small children. Children have a difficult time reading dog body language if not taught very well. A guarding dog and a child who doesn’t recognize guarding behavior is a recipe for disaster.

Seek out a positive reinforcement trainer as soon as possible if your dog displays guarding behavior.

In this particular situation, it’s important that you avoid trainers who use aversive methods like positive punishment and negative reinforcement. Dogs who guard are trying to prevent the loss of their resource and have extremely heightened emotions when they feel the resource is at risk.

Dog Hates Husband

Why Does My Dog Growl at My Husband? Does He Hate Him?

Growling is a perfectly normal behavioral response for a dog to display — it’s simply a warning that something is making your pup uncomfortable and they would like it to stop. 

Dogs growl to warn other animals and humans away from resources they value (things like food, toys, or even water), to stop someone from touching them in a way that is uncomfortable or painful, or simply to tell you to knock it off and let them be.   

Dogs also growl at someone when they are afraid. It warns whatever the dog is afraid of that he wants this interaction to stop, and if it doesn’t the dog will be forced to protect himself. 

If your dog is aggressive toward your husband but not you, he may require more socialization time with men.

Men in particular have a tendency to be scarier to dogs for a number of reasons. Most men are taller, stockier, and have deeper voices than women; some also have beards or other types of facial hair that look odd to dogs. 

If a dog isn’t well-socialized with all sorts of men — tall, short, big, thin, with and without facial hair, with deep and high voices, of different races and ethnicities, disabled men, etc.– meeting someone “different” could trigger growling.

Fear not — this is usually manageable. Desensitizing your dog to your husband by having him play the “good cop” is a great way to start

How to Make Your Husband The “Good Cop”

In order to help win your dog over, your husband should start giving your dog all the things he finds valuable. For example, he should:

  • Feed the dog meals
  • Offer the dog treats
  • Provide high-value toys and play with the dog
  • Take the dog for walks or other activities your dog enjoys
  • Play trust-building games and activities with the dog

They key is to help the dog associate your husband with positive experiences – this guy is a heralder of great things!

Your husband should also avoid raising his voice and making sudden movements around your dog to encourage a positive relationship.    

Can You Keep a Dog That Is Aggressive Toward Family Members?

The answer to this question depends on a number of factors.

If your dog simply growls or barks at one family member, the answer is probably yes. You’ll likely be able to solve the problem over time (and with training and desensitization), because the dog hasn’t felt that he needs to escalate. 

Even a dog that has escalated just once, in a moment of pain for example, may be able to stay in the family with the help of a trainer.

If, however, your dog has repeatedly displayed other aggressive behaviors,– like lunging or biting — it may be time to consider other options. 

This is especially true if there are young children in the home. Any dog who bites and breaks the skin must be taken extremely seriously. 

Behavioral intervention is necessary for all aggressive dogs, and if you can’t accommodate the cost or time that it takes to modify behavior, it might be time to find your dog a more suitable home.

No two dogs are the same, and triggers of aggression are unique to each and every one.

When in doubt consult a certified behaviorist (not just a trainer – they often don’t have enough expertise for aggression cases). They’ll be able to help you determine the type of dog aggression you are dealing with and offer additional aggressive dog training tips.


Does your dog seem to have issues with a specific member of your family? What steps have you taken to address the problem? Have you figured out any way to promote familial harmony? Have you solicited the help of a professional trainer?

Let us know all about your experiences in the comments below!

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Gem is a Denver-based animal industry professional and up-and-coming content creation specialist. They have experience in dog training and behavior, sheltering, and they currently work for a veterinary clinic.


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My brother lives with me my dod growls barks at him he gets aggressive I don’t know what to to do he likes my sister I think he don’t like men I had him since 8 months he’s 3 now


Yesterday my husband and I brought home an approximatey 4 year old black and tan coonhound. We are familiar with the breed and have worked with them before. Today he interacted perfectly fine with some people. When my dad came over, his hair stood up and he lunged at him biting his arm. Thankfully it was just a superficial wound and nothing serious but Reuben (our dog) doesn’t want anything to do with him. We tried having my dad take his hat off and Reuben was still aggressive. We tried me hugging my dad and making physical contact with him so that Reuben wouldn’t think he is a threat but Reuben still didn’t care. We are hesitant to keep him because of this. Nothing, in particular, triggered this and he has been fine with everyone else that we introduced him to including other males. Any suggestions?

Ben Team

Hey there, Abigail. Sorry to hear about the trouble with Reuben.
It’d probably be wise to reach out to the shelter/rescue/breeder you obtained him from and ask if he has any known sensitivities or anxieties you can try to avoid. But you’ll probably want to reach out to a certified dog behavior consultant to have an assessment performed.

Just keep in mind that it was his first day in a strange new place — that can be quite overwhelming for some pooches. He may settle in very nicely once he becomes more confident and comfortable in his new surroundings.
Best of luck!


Hello! My 2 daughters and I adopted a Shephard husky mix when he was 8 weeks old. He is now 7 months. My problem is that he always nips/bites My 15 year old. He will go after her before any of us. She would play a but aggressively with him when he was teething as a younger puppy. Could that be the cause? How do I get him to stop? We do time outs, I yell in a stern voice and say no. I’m at a loss.

Ben Team

Hey, Jena.
For starters, try some of the tips Gem provided — especially the ones about turning your daughter into the “good cop.”
Just keep safety in mind and reach out to a certified dog behavior consultant if you feel like you’re in over your head.
Best of luck!

Suzanne Lindaman

We need some advise. My husband and I adopted a 10 year old Bichon about 6 months ago and all was well. We had lost our other boy a short time before, Chico was a Mommy’s boy so I was excited that Brutus loved his daddy. My husband works from home so they are together a lot! He has started to growl, bark, and lunge at me in bed. It began as just growling when I would get up to use the bathroom, but now it is every time I move in bed. During the day he is fine and will occasionally jump in my lap for scritchies.

I work two jobs and am away from home a lot, so it harder for me to be the only one that feeds him. Plus he was just diagnosed with pancreatitis and we are making his food for the time being. We also know he is getting cataracts so we tried putting the light on so he knew it was me.

Any suggestions?
Thank you!


Hey Suzanne! I’d suggest enlisting the help of a certified dog behavior consultant to be sure. But what you are describing could be more of a resource guarding issue. It’s hard to say for sure, but considering he only behaves that way in bed, he may be feeling protective over the bed. You’ll likely still want to talk with a certified behaviorist about resolving the resource guarding, if that is the case. An easy first step would be to simply not allow the dog on the bed – at least until you get some help from a pro. Best of luck!


Hi, our Yorkie is 3 years old. We have five kids and our five year old the dog has become aggressive with. Our five year old is our youngest child and she has disabilities. I have never witnessed my child be mean or hurt the dog. Every time I witness the dog nip or growl or lunge, it’s totally unprovoked. She does have a walker and a wheelchair, but she mainly crawls as her mode of mobility at home. My child is at the point where she avoids the dog altogether, she won’t even enter a room if she sees him. It’s totally the dog that’s being mean to her and I don’t know what to do. The dog is small, only 3.5 lbs, so my child, 65 lbs, is completely capable of fighting him off of need be, which is why we decided on such a small breed, we wanted her to have a pet/friend, but we also knew she couldn’t walk and didn’t want a dog that was big enough to nip her in the face in the event the dog we got ever did get aggressive. The dog is a good dog and I don’t understand why he’s acting this way towards her. I was just watching her sitting on the stairs and the dog was out of view in the hallway, she didn’t do anything, she clapped her hands and was talking to me and he came into view running towards her and snapping for no reason. She wasn’t by a toy, she wasn’t heading his way, she was sitting, playing with her hands and talking to me and he attacked. Then he saw I was watching and ran to his bed. I don’t know what to do, I don’t want to get rid of my dog, but I can’t have him attacking my disabled daughter. Help!

Ben Team

Hey there, Grace. So sorry to hear about the challenges with your pup.

First, we applaud you for approaching the entire issue so deliberately, thoughtfully, and carefully. We think that dogs can be marvelous companions for kids with special needs, but it can still be tricky to pair any kiddo with any doggo.

However, we would still recommend that you exercise extreme caution, as even a 3.5-pound dog can inflict very nasty injuries (and more quickly than you may imagine).

It sounds like your daughter is (inadvertently) frightening the dog, but it is hard to know for sure from afar. It may look like nothing at all to you, but your dog may find even the most innocuous actions triggering. It honestly sounds like you’re going to need the help of a certified canine behavior consultant — especially given the obvious safety issues involved here.

It may also help to brush up on your dog-body-language-reading skills so that you can better understand your dog’s motivations and emotions, but that’s not going to automatically fix the situation.

Sorry we can’t be of more help, but we wish you and your daughter the best of luck.

Damien Evans

I’ve had my 1 year 2 month old yorkie mix for a year. He’s never had a problem with aggression, except at times when he’s asleep and I move him and he snaps.
My sister, her fiance and their elderly pomeranian moved in with me. When they are gone, he whines and howls for a them for a bit, but he’s totally normal with me. When they are here, he will get aggressive with me. Sometimes when he’s near my sister or sometimes for no apparent reason. They leave and he’s fine min the 3 weeks they’ve lived here, he has bitten me 4 times and growled showing teeth until I leave the room multiple times. What do I do?

Ben Team

Hey there, Damien.
Sorry, but I’m not 100% clear about the problem. Is it your dog who’s biting you or your sister’s dog?

Regardless, given that you’ve been bitten four times, it’d probably be wise to contact a canine behaviorist. It sounds like quite a complicated situation involving multiple people and dogs, so you may just need professional help.
Best of luck!

Pam Torres

My husband and I moved my mom with middle stage Alz Disease with us three months ago. We adopted about a month ago a male 5 yrs old Chiwennie for her to enjoy his company. But I’m the main caregiver and he just attached to me as his mom. He already accepted my husband and connected with him, but we are struggling with mom. He doesn’t accept her, rejects to be near her, but just look for her when she eats as she is the one that gives him something from her plate. I know she needs some training too. But what specifically can we do to train the dog to accept and connect with her?

Ben Team

Hey there, Pam.
Check out our article about getting a scared dog to trust you — it provides a number of tips for helping to forge a bond between two-footers and four-footers.
Best of luck!


Hello. My stepdad decided to bring a pitbull lab dog to our house two weeks ago and since then she’s been growling and barking at my voice and sight of only me and not my brother and my stepdad. I have a long term fear of dogs since I was young and do still get shaken by dogs and their barks. Although, our new dogs seems really chill and obedient infront of them she started to bark loudly to me every time like she has been holding hate over me for a longtime. We have never own a pet ever, so what should I do? Thank You!

Ben Team

Hey there, Lian.
Sorry you find yourself in this situation, and there’s no shame in being afraid of dogs — many people are.
Ideally, you would be able to discuss the issue with your stepdad and try to figure out a good solution that works for everyone. But if that’s not possible, you may want to learn a little about dog body language.
Understand that dogs bark for a variety of reasons — including when they’re just excited and having fun. By learning about how dogs communicate with body language, it may help you to feel a little more confident around them.
Best of luck!


Hey Lian! Ben’s suggestion about learning more about dog body language is smart. I’d also add that the dog definitely doesn’t hate you – it sounds like she is just as scared of you are you are of her! Check out our article on how to get a scared dog to trust you. A great way to start would be to play “treat and retreat”, where you can throw a treat away from you to the opposite side of the room. When the dog eats the treat and looks towards you or takes a step towards you, toss another great. The idea is that you don’t force the dog to come up and interact with you physically, as that can be too scary. But the dog will still get the idea that looking at you and being in your presence means they get treats, changing their emotional response towards your presence. I hope that helps! I’d urge you to give the dog a chance to acclimate to you and dispense a lot of treats so she realizes you are a positive presence. If you feel nervous around the dog, there’s also nothing wrong with putting up gates around the house so that you can relax without the dog near you. You deserve to feel safe and comfortable too!


We adopted a teacup poodle a month ago and she was fine with me at most times. But, lately, she’s been growling and sometimes would attack me when she sees me. Seems like she does not want to see me inside the house after i wake up. She would sleep with is in the bed but would growl if i come back to bed. Or even when she sleeps in the living room and sees me walking, she’ll attack me. I’ve tried feeding her everyday, giving her treats on my hand but after she finished the food, starts growling again. Can we still resolve this issue or is it time to let go?

Ben Team

Hey, Joel. Sorry to hear about the problems with your pooch.

We wouldn’t consider it a hopeless situation — after all, it’s only been a month. That’s not an inconsequential length of time, but it may not have been long enough for her to feel comfortable yet. Just try to do everything you can to demonstrate to her that you aren’t a threat, and try to (slowly and patiently) develop your bond. As long as you can do so safely, continue doling out the treats, etc.

But if a few more weeks pass without improvement, you may very well need professional help. Try to reach out to a canine behaviorist, so you can have an assessment performed and take things from there.
Best of luck!

John Blackmon

My dog is 2 and a half. She is a mix. She has repeatedly lunged at my wife and my daughter. We have taken her for training and the trainer said that he does not feel like she is an aggressive dog. Yet she still has episodes of this kind of behavior with my wife and daughter. As a matter of fact she did it again today with my daughter. My wife and daughter have had it and they want her out of our house because they are tired of being scared around her and they feel as though I’m picking my dog above them. I’m not by the way of course if I had to choose my dog over my family it’s a no brained my family comes first. I just feel like I’m letting this dog down and I feel like she is a part of the family as well. She gets along well with us most of the time, but it really weird that once in a while out of the blue for no particular reason she will have one of these leaching out episodes and bites or attempts to bite like one snap and done kind of thing.
My wife says she wants a dog she can love on and cuddle with, but she can’t with this one. She has rolled on her back before and I rub her belly and she has leashed out at me before as well.
I guess I need options because I know deep down that we should probably find her another home, but I don’t know if it would be safe for her to go to another family or not. Also I don’t want to have to put her down/ euthanized because that would break my heart. It’s a bad situation and I would love to have a happy ending to the situation. Sorry for all the rambling but there is a lot going on.
Thank you for any advice you may have.


Ben Team

Hey there, John.
So sorry to hear that it isn’t working out with your pooch. Ultimately, you’ll just need to use your judgement and try to determine the best path forward for you, the dog, and your family.
However, we would recommend that you solicit the opinion of a canine behaviorist (as opposed to a trainer). He or she may be able to provide some help with the issues and determine whether your pup is actually dangerous.
Best of luck!

sakshi sharma

I have a one year old indie dog, he was rescued when he was about a month old. he was a very friendly dog in starting but from a few months he has started growling on my bother who has moved in few months back nd my dog is getting anxious day by day. Is there anything you could help me with?

Ben Team

Hey there, Sakshi.
There’s nothing we can do personally to help, but if you try some of the tips outlined above, you may find that they help.
If not, you’ll probably need to reach out to a canine behaviorist.
Best of luck!


How do you recommend finding a certified behaviorist for dogs in your area? Our rescue dog is amazing in every way except he despises my father. He growls ferociously at my dad from the minute he comes in our house until the time my dad leaves. He is very assertive and aggresive towards my dad. We thought it would pass but everytime he comes it’s the same. My dad is the nicest guy and we have no idea why he is acting this way towards my dad. I hate to choose between my dad and dog but it’s just not letting up. Any suggestions? Recommendations? Any advice would be greatly appreciatged! Thank you so much!

Ben Team

Hey, Lisa.
Check out our article explaining exactly how to find a canine behaviorist.
Best of luck!

Isaiah Cervin

Hello, just to keep things brief. Basically, I rescued my basset hound about a year and a half ago. The minute he stepped into my house he immediately did not like my brother. Granted, it was my mom and my girlfriend who accompanied me to rescue him 2 hours from where I live. But it was an issue alongside being skittish and just overall scared of people. An issue I thought would go away over time but still hasn’t. He has never gotten aggressive or lounged at my brother. But he violently runs away for his life, like some type of fear i can’t even describe. He also suffers from separation anxiety when he’s away from me. What should i do?

Ben Team

Hey there, Isaiah.
Check out our article on separation anxiety to learn how to deal with that, but regarding the fear of your brother, you’ll basically want to help dissolve that fear slowly, over time — likely with the help of positive reinforcement.
For example, you may have your brother sit in a chair outside. Then, with your pooch on a leash, walk as close to your brother as you can without frightening your dog (this may be pretty far away at first). Then, give him a treat.

Lather, rinse, and repeat, while slowly moving closer to your brother over time.
Best of luck!


We have had our rat terrier (dak) since a puppy. Very loving dog with husband, self , grandson, friends . Stepson (32) lives with us with his son (7) . But stepson he growl barks all the time he is in sight.! I tried to get stepson to greet dak and give him a treat but that lasted two days but dak stopped barking so it worked . Now stepson is back to yelling in a deep voice “shit the f…up” all the time dak is barking . Our little girl Daisey also rat terrier turns her head and ignores them both . Dak is 6 Daisey is 7 . I can’t get it threw stepson to stop the barking keep doing it till dak learns , dak needs repeative teaching ! Help me with step son ( blockhead)


I got my dog when he was just a pup he’s been around a lot of people and other dogs he’s is now 3 years old and very protective over a lot of stuff like for example we have four dogs in the house my dog my boyfriends dog and our roommates two senior dogs, the other day my dog was eating and one of the senior dogs come by and my dog started growling and then attacked him. This happens with his toys also. But he is also very protective with family as well, when he is laying on my lap and someone comes by us he starts growling and if you come to close he will get snappy but he gets like that with my boyfriend or other people if he’s laying with them and someone comes by or the dogs get to close to whoever he’s laying with. And one more thing he does not like my uncle . He has a walker and is a heavy person and he constantly just barks at him , or sometimes try’s to attack his walker. But he tells me when we’re gone he is his best friend. I’m really not sure why my dog is like that maybe it’s just because of me he is being protective. The way I correct him when he gets aggressive is I tell him no and send him to his cage. I’m trying to show him everyone’s isn’t a threat to him or me so when he’s laying with me and someone comes by and he doesn’t react I praise him . I really want to help him fix this problem cause if it doesn’t stop and just gets worse I’m gonna have to give him to another family but I really don’t want to go down that road I’m willing to try my hardest to get rid of that behavior. I just don’t know what I’m doing wrong .

Ben Team

Hey, Monique. Sorry about the issues with your dog.

Unfortunately, it sounds like you’re probably going to need to work with a private trainer who can assess your dog’s behavior and get to the bottom of his issues. Sometimes, it just takes a professional eye to figure out the problem and devise a good plan of attack. If you don’t have a trainer in your area you can consult, you can reach out to Journey Dog Training — they offer a variety of long-distance training solutions.

We certainly don’t want to see you have to rehome your pooch, so you’ll need to act quickly — we’re concerned that he may end up biting someone, which will make it even more difficult to keep him.

Sorry we don’t have a better answer — best of luck!


I have a GSD, he is 3 years old, in the last 2 months he tried to attack my brother 5 times of which 3 time he has bitten him , my brother goes to pet him and he starts growling and attacking, we tried keeping my dog and my brother in separate spaces and the least interaction possible but it is not working he is attacking all of a sudden without any prior warning . most of the days he is fine with him even swing his tail seeing him, we do not have any professional assistant of a trainer over here, my dad is thinking of rehoming him, is there anything that can be done?
my brother got the dog when he was 12 days old .
I Dont think he was properly socialized because he barks at the people living on rent in my home, even though he has seen them day in and out, I don’t know what happens but sometime he does not bark at all at them, but then all of a sudden he tries to attack them. is there anything that I can do to change his behaviour?
I met him when he was 1 year old, I think he was poorly kept and that might have caused aggression.
Because of a lot of people living on rent in my home we have to chain him 10 a.m. – 10 p.m, but I take him on long walk to compensate and tries to involve him in different activities all day. we do have a backyard all for him but he does not like to go there.
He even growls at people,children who are afraid of him.
i don’t want to abandon my dog, my whole family is afraid and scared of him now that’s might do some real damage as there are a lot of people {7 families} living in the home.
he has a good relation with everyone in my family other than my brother, of all people in the room he tries to attack my brother, please suggest something that i could do?

Ben Team

Hey, Arshi.

That sounds like a difficult situation for both you and your pet. Living in fear that he’ll bite someone is certainly hard on you, and being chained up for 12 hours a day is almost guaranteed to make him frustrated and depressed, which will exacerbate his behavioral issues.

Unfortunately, based on your description and your pup’s likely size, it is critical that you get some professional help. As you explained, he’s already biting people and that can’t be allowed to contiue.
If you don’t have access to trainers in your area, try reaching out to Journey Dog Training. They offer a number of long-distance training solutions that may help.

Best of luck!


Our dog which we have had for 15 years has, in the past number of years become aggressive towards my daughter. It started when my daughter was around 16. It normally is just growling but it did elevate to a bite. The dog is a small Shitzou/Bichon crossed with a cocker spaniel. We have no idea why this started or how to stop it. The dog does follow me everywhere and is often under my chair or with me when I lay down for a nap. We have gone away on trips for up to three weeks with the dog left with my daughter to take care of but this has done nothing to alleviate the growling and barking. The only thing I recall my daughter doing was when the dog was younger she would dress her up in large doll clothes (my daughter was about 8-10 years old at the time). Other than that I am at wits end how to end this behaviour.

Ben Team

Hey, Don.
So sorry to hear about the issues with your pooch!

It’s hard to tell exactly what your dog’s issue with your daughter is from afar. Given that, as well as the fact that the behavior has escalated to biting, we’d strongly recommend working with a private trainer. If you can’t find one in your area, you can reach out to Journey Dog Training. They offer a variety of long-distance training options, and you can obtain a discount for being a K9 of Mine reader (just see the link for details).

Best of luck!


We rescued a blue heeler mix almost a year ago. I am not sure of the history of the dog. I was just told an elder women that was having surgery and could not keep her. From the beginning she has barked at my son, never aggressively never snipping or biting. And when she barks, she is almost whining too like she wants his attention but barks too. If she is in the room when he enters, she barks and runs away from him. She will run to my daughter’s room. I think she feels that is her safe place, where she spend a lot of time. She will now allow him in the same room with coaxing. She will eat a treat left by him and let him pet her and will even lick his face if he looks away. He can not walk towards her or try to pick her up. She also barks at men of my son’s statured/size. He is getting frustrated and will not help that much in trying to get her to stop barking. He wants me and my daughters to train her. I do not want to rehome her or have to choose between my Son and the dog. We have another rescue dog that does not bark at him. I was thinking that the second dog would calm her and teach her that he is ok. Any help would be apricated.


My dog keeps lunging at my grandma,he did it twice, he was quite calm when grandma came to live with us but after 2 weeks of her being here he attacked her one day out of the blue ,it shocked me and my mum ,my grandma likes dogs in general and didnt harm him at all so it was very strange
apart from this incident my dog has some instance of sudden lungng and biting people at times
ive had him when he was quite old (3 years old) so i really dont know what to do
please help! :/

Ben Team

Hey, Tahia.
So sorry you’re having trouble with your pooch!

We usually recommend working with a professional trainer anytime your dog is biting (or attempting to bite) people. If you don’t have a trainer in your area, try reaching out to Journey Dog Training.
They provide a number of long-distance training solutions, and you can get a discount for being a K9 of Mine reader.

In the meantime and for safety’s sake, it’d probably be wise to keep your dog separated from your grandma.
Best of luck!


My family and I adopted a 4 year old redbone coonhound a little more than a year ago. At first he was pretty shy but slowly showed us his personality. Then a few months in he started to growl at me when other family members were eating. Then it turned into barking and growling. So my dad would put him in another room. Now it’s gotten to the point where I’ll just be fixing his bed or touching something near him and he’ll nip me. I can’t understand why he is only acting this way towards me. Since we got him from the shelter I’ve been with him. He would sleep in my room, I would feed him, take him on walks, bathe him, and everything else. I’m his main caretaker. Occasionally my mom will feed him but it’s normally me. It’s very puzzling and makes me think he doesn’t like me for some reason. Yet when someone hugs me or goes to touch me he gets upset and growls. I’ve never hit him I’ve only ever smothered him with kisses. Any advice would help.

Ben Team

Hey, Erin.
Unfortunately, given that he’s starting to bite, I think you’re going to need some professional help at this stage.
Reach out to Journey Dog Training — they offer a variety of long-distance training solutions.
Best of luck!


We’ve had Blacky since he was a pup, and he just turned 5 years old last month. My family got him while I was on vacation, so I got home 2 weeks after he settled in, and I’ve always joked about how he doesn’t like me because I was a stranger that came to live with him.
Over the years we’ve played, taken many walks and he was my companion when I got into jogging. He sleeps besides me in my bed most nights. However, since last year he has progressively showed aggressive behavior towards me, which started with him growling whenever I tried to pick him up.
He still sleeps in my bed, just not beside me anymore, he stays by my feet, and if I try to pick him up, or just go in for a hug he growls, bares his fangs and if dare touch him, he tries to bite me. He doesn’t actually do it yet, but he does do a snapping motion as if throwing a bite but stops right before his teeth touch my hand.
He, however, only does that if my mom and dad aren’t around, in which case he reluctantly let’s me pick him up for a short while.
I’ve stopped attempting to do those things, since I figured he didn’t like it anymore, but he does let other family members do it. Should we be worried?

Ben Team

Hey, Alberto. That certainly sounds like an issue!
We’d recommend working with a trainer anytime your dog snaps or attempts to bite people.
If you don’t have anyone in your area you can work with, you may want to consider reaching out to Journey Dog Training. They offer a variety of long-distance training solutions.
Best of luck!

Stacey Acuna

Help! Please! One of our dogs that we’ve had since a puppy has become aggressive toward our son. It started around the time he started college four years ago and has escalated. He recently moved back home and her behavior has worsened. She hasn’t bit him. She’s ok with him at times then just minutes later changes to an aggressive behavior. It’s very stressful for all of us and especially upsets our son Who wants to be a positive part of her life. We have tried making him the positive person like suggested and she will be fine then flip in minutes to seconds. We are at a loss and want her to be a happy furkid and for our son not to be alienated by her behavior. We haven’t tried medicating her other than Bach Rescue Remedy And recently hemp calming chews. Not very helpful. We are desperate. ANY guidance would be appreciated. May your day be blessed!

Ben Team

Hey, Stacey.
Unfortunately, this sounds like one of the times that’ll simply require the help of a professional trainer or behaviorist.
If you can’t find one in your area, consider reaching out to Journey Dog Training. They provide long-distance training solutions, which may help.
Best of luck!

Dawn Tresenrider

Our Grandson and wife are living with us for a while. Although their dog appears to love “Grandpa” and lies at his feet walks with him, etc, he greets him when he arrives home or enters a room with sinister growls and raised hackles before he settles down.Then he is normal.
“Grandpa” is the only one of five adults that receives this behavior.
It seems to be getting worse over time.
PS ” Grandpa loves him and dogs in general and has never abused him.
We have also known the dog for a long time before they moved in with us and he didn’t do it then.

Ben Team

Hey, Dawn.
A change in living arrangements can be difficult for dogs at times. He may settle in and relax over time, but if he continues to react poorly to Grandpa, you may want to reach out to a trainer for help.
Best of luck!

Kathryn Rawlins

We got a mid sized golden doodle January, 2020. Was born 11/16/2019. Started him in puppy play as soon as he had appropriate shots. He did well. Socialized with puppies and their owners alike. Enrolled him in a positive based training class. This was one on one and we both participated. He did fairly well. Pulled at leash, but did basic sit, down, roll over, come.
Jesse, the puppy, has always favored his dad and they do have a tight bond. I am the one who feeds him and fills his nightly Kong with peanut butter. Jesse has grown to be very aggressive towards me. Unprovoked he will attack me, bite me until I bleed, growl, snarl. He will leave a room with my husband then turn around and run full force back to me, jump on me full force biting. If I turn around to ignore him he will bite me in the back and has torn many shirts in the process. I have tried most everything I have read to do. Mostly always positive reinforcement which is quite difficult when a dog is viscously attacking.
He’s completely fine with other people but with Covid-19 he hasn’t been around many. He currently is going to dog day camp, half a day, twice a week and working with a trainer. I’m just about at my wits end.

Ben Team

Wow — that sounds pretty scary, Kathryn.
We’d definitely recommend working with a behaviorist at this point.
Best of luck!


We rescued Charlie and Holly at the same time and Charlie growls, barks and runs away whenever my 16 year old son is present. Holly seems to be fearful of him, but I don’t know if she’s just afraid because she sees Charlie is. Could he be protective of her? We’ve had them 4 months and it doesn’t seem to be going away.


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